2020 Visions

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Yes, I know. You’ve heard multiple references to “2020” and “Vision”. But I just couldn’t help myself. The dawn of this new decade has me pumped! The last decade heralded the beginning of a journey for me. 2010 started with a game changing rock-my-world crumbling down of the carefully planned follow-the-rules quiet life I was leading. Fast forward to New Year’s Eve 2019 and all I wanted to do was “dance this new decade in!” Which I did. Plus, I won a tv. Which was awesome! In the last 10 years I accomplished a lot like, passing the big “5-0”, becoming a Grandma, and progressing in a really great job. I let go of things like perfectionism, fear, and people pleasing. Setting boundaries and acceptance became my new repertoire. I saw that this imperfect life is absolutely beautiful. Not bad for a decade.

In 2020, I would like to journey further. And I want to inspire others to do the same. Maybe this list of  “New Year’s Resolutions” will do just that for you.

A big theme for my 2020 is “Self Care”. As I think upon this concept, I realize self care does not mean self indulgence. In fact, sometimes it means making the more difficult choice. Perhaps one needs to remove oneself from unhealthy social connections, even though it would be easier to simply “go with the flow”. These last few years I have greatly reduced my social contacts. I focus more on authentic friendships that are healthy, even if that means I have less people in my circle. I would highly recommend this. I can honestly say that my emotional and mental health along with happiness have increased exponentially without making any other change. Self esteem and self worth have soared! I’m planning on continuing this.

Another self care strategy is to remove unhealthy habits. This is not necessarily easy. I’m talking about habits such as binge watching tv, “treating” myself to junk food, or even that “well-deserved” glass of red wine after a “hard days work”. Yes, I said that. Even the glass of wine. It is interesting to me how for years that daily glass was marketed as “healthy”. The latest findings have turned the tide and it is now recommended to reduce how many drinks one imbibes per week. Personally I have replaced the daily glass with herbal teas. There’s a great variety available, like lavender, mint, chamomile. I have also created a lovely recipe for homemade apple cider which offers beautiful comfort for any winter evening! In this vein, I have found it useful to ask myself why exactly do I need a particular unhealthy habit. What is happening in life that I would feel the need to dull my mind each evening with tv, unhealthy food or alcohol? One big tip is to replace each unhealthy habit with a better habit (which hopefully is healthy!). So, I’m thinking of adding things like walks, yoga routine, book reading and even lovely bubble baths to my nights. Continue reading

Where do you stand?

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Most people are willing to stand beside someone when that person is up, enjoying success, and happy. They want to share in the joy! It’s easy to be with people who are doing well.

But what happens when things are not going so well? What happens when stuff goes wrong, unexpected circumstances present themselves and life’s challenges become overwhelming?

Who stands with you then?

And who do you stand with?

This is the time that the authenticity of a friendship is revealed.

This is the time that you and I show our true character.

Being willing to stand not only with the great, but also with the broken – this is the type of friend I want to be; this is the type of friend I need.

Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn” – Romans 12:15

The Strength of a Woman

strongWhen you know exactly who you are and decide exactly where your personal boundaries fall, you can face the world with strength. Even in difficult situations.

It’s okay to feel afraid, or angry, or insecure, or any other emotion that arises within you. Acknowledge your emotions. Breathe through the difficult ones Then let them slowly dissipate.

Life is for living. Life is for enjoying.

Lovingly embrace every minute!